Are you constantly worrying about everything? Most people worry mostly about relationships, finances, your parents, children, job, school, and everything. Sometimes, not even realizing it?
Well, do your negative thoughts take control of your mind and drive you absolutely crazy?
Most people’s worries do. But, there are a few things you have to think about and do in order to get your thoughts back on track.
Individuals can spend weeks, months and in some cases years in psychotherapy working on changing their thoughts or behaviors.
They do this to find some way not allow worry and stress overcome them, but you have to realize the change depends on you.
Worry Lies Within Yourself
One of the life’s hardest lessons to learn is that you are able to only change yourself.
Some individuals spend excessive amounts of time and energy worrying or frustrated by other people’s thoughts and behaviors.
You are able to rail against the rain or feel sanguine about the snow, but there is not a lot you are able to do about it.
Why should you believe you can change someone else’s behaviors and thoughts with just a couple of choice words?
If you toy with it for a minute, it sounds rather ridiculous.
Yet you do not think about it when you have a worrisome reaction to another person’s behavior or words.
Perhaps, you say things like, “How could they say such a thing!” or
“How can anybody be so rude?” or
“Don’t they recognize how much they hurt me? Why do they do that?”
Many people frequently react in this way because emotions are part of most people’s innate decision-making skills.
You react and respond emotionally to emotional needs of your own, rather than in a logical, rational manner.
Therefore, when someone touches one of these emotional needs, you can respond in a way that may not make a whole lot of sense to an outside observer.
What can you do instead? Make a polite request for another to stop the behavior that you find frustrating, annoying or makes you worried.
But that’s it, just once. After that, you just become a nag and will be ignored.
Repeating something over and over again does not suddenly make people more aware of themselves, it just makes them aware of how annoying you can be.
There is no magic to stopping trying to change other people’s behavior. Catch your thoughts before the upset you or you start getting that worried overwhelming feeling.
If you have already said something in the process, now’s the time to stop and go no further.
Unless you are the other individual’s parent, they have probably already heard it and may have even tried stopping the behavior.
Hearing it again is not going to suddenly change their behavior.
Individuals can spend weeks, months and in some cases years in psychotherapy working on changing their thoughts or behaviors.
They do this to find some way not allow worry and stress overcome them, but you have to realize the change depends on you.
The reason for this, such change often takes that long to understand, practice, and then implement.
Behaviors most significant to other people are also likely behaviors that are important to ourselves and not readily changed, even if we wanted to.
They sometimes are integrated part of another’s personality or way of thinking about and looking at the entire world.
So save yourself some frustration today and try to learn to stop trying to change others.
Focus instead on changing your own faults and you may find yourself living a happier and more peaceful life.
What Worry Can Do?
Are you an unreasonable worrier? Maybe you subconsciously think that if you “worry enough”, you are able to prevent bad things from occurring.
But the fact is worrying may impact your body in ways that might surprise you.
When worrying gets to be excessive, it may lead to feelings of high anxiety and even cause you to be physically sick.
What Occurs With Too Much Worrying?
Worrying is feeling anxious or being overly concerned about a state of affairs or issue.
With unreasonable worrying, your brain and body go into overdrive as you perpetually center on “what may happen.”
In the middle of excessive worrying, you might suffer from high anxiousness — even panic — during all your waking hours.
A lot of chronic worriers tell of feeling a sense of imminent doom or unrealistic fears that only step-up their worries.
Ultra-sensitive to their surroundings and to the criticism of other people, excessive worriers might see anything — and anybody — as a likely threat.
Chronic worrying impacts your daily life so much that it interferes with your appetite, lifestyle habits, relationships, rest, and job performance.
A lot of hoi polloi who worry overly are so anxiety-ridden that they look for relief in harmful lifestyle habits like overeating, eating junk food, cigarette smoking, or utilizing alcohol and drugs.
Chronic worrying and emotional tension may trigger a host of health issues. The issue happens when fight or flight is triggered daily by unreasonable worrying and anxiety.
The fight or flight response makes the body’s sympathetic nervous system release stress hormones like cortisol.
These hormones may boost blood sugar levels and triglycerides (blood fats) that may be used by the body for fuel.
The hormones likewise cause physical reactions like:
- Trouble swallowing
- Vertigo
- Dry mouth
- Quick heartbeat
- Tiredness
- Headaches
- Inability to concentrate
- Crossness
- Muscle aches
- Muscle tension
- Nausea
- Anxious energy
- Speedy breathing
- Breathlessness
- Perspiration
- Quivering and twitching
All of these systems interact and are deeply influenced by your coping style and your mental state. It isn’t the stress that makes you ill.
Instead, it’s the effect responses like excessive worrying and anxiety have on these assorted interacting systems that may bring on the physical illness.
There are things you are able to do, though, including lifestyle changes, to alter the way you react.
TEN ACTIONS
Developing these ten attributes builds character, which serves as a jumping-off point for dynamic action in living a worry free life?
BALANCE
We are able to live a balanced and fulfilling life by centering on spiritual development as a top priority, and by devoting time to the other areas: physical, mental, career, financial, family, and social/recreational.
You can provide balance in your lives by:
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keeping up your wellness and vitality
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developing a clear mind and a positive mental attitude
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discovering your talents and doing your part in a meaningful career
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meeting your financial needs and responsibilities
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taking care of your responsibilities to family
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taking time out for fun
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building meaningful friendships
FAITH
Belief in ourselves and trust in a Higher Power can help us through tough times.
“Letting go and letting God“ enables us to accept and appreciate life in all its diversity.
Faith in a Higher Power allows us the stability and peace we need in life.
FORGIVENESS
Forgiveness comes from a compassionate heart.
You were able to find strength to forgive ourselves and other people.
Retaliation and violence are often the consequence of a lack of forgiveness. A forgiving attitude gives you serenity.
HONESTY AND INTEGRITY
Being dependable gives you dignity and faith in yourselves. You can be honest without hurting the feelings of other people.
Honesty is what you do when no one is watching in addition to when other people are present. Integrity includes honesty and requires adhering to your values and morals.
People of integrity do not compromise their principles for money, comfort, or quick results.
Integrity demands courage and the strength of one’s convictions. This individual serves as an admirable example for other people.
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
Positive relationships revitalize you, relating easily with other people decreases feelings of solitude.
Perceiving the beneficial qualities in other people and showing appreciation are keys to having better relationships.
Listening to other people is one way to let them know they are important to you.
As your ability to listen and communicate improves, so does your strength in building successful relationships.
Though you may disagree with somebody, you can select words that show regard for that individual’s viewpoint.
Learning to relate effectively with other people is a skill that can be developed.
LOVE
When love is aroused in you, other great qualities–such as joy, inner peace, and courage can develop automatically.
Love is brave and forgiving. Your soul is love. Love is our essential nature.
MOTIVATION
To accomplish anything in life, you must create a goal and then take positive action to achieve it.
Motivation starts with a solid desire from within oneself.
To make a wholehearted effort towards your goals, you must be extremely motivated.
Envisioning your dreams will increase your motivation to accomplish them.
Strong motivation, combined with the will to take action, removes barriers that block your potential.
PERSEVERANCE
Perseverance heightens your ability to achieve goals. Perseverance is powerful. Inner growth and personal transformation require perseverance.
Your minds are our greatest handicap. Life’s toughest battles are fought within yourselves. You need the courage to win these battles.
RESPONSIBILITY
Responsibility entails responding to the needs of the situation at hand. You have to determine the difference between unnecessary obligations and appropriate obligations.
Self-improvement is a creditworthy and unselfish action. It is a requirement to effectively helping other people.
You cannot make a substantial contribution to other people if you avoid helping yourself.
SELF-CONFIDENCE
Self-confidence means that one believes in oneself. Self-confidence grows as you attain and utilize your strengths.
Experiencing a series of small, incremental successes is an excellent way to defeat fear and establish self-confidence.
As your self-confidence grows, you gain the ability to achieve your dreams and heighten your joy of living. Believing that you are worthwhile makes life worth living.
Acquiring these ten attributes enables you to live effective and fulfilling lives. Every person has tremendous potential.
You possess immense inner resources from which can make a contribution. Drawing upon these resources, you can develop yourself into the best human being you are capable of becoming.
Your life becomes a blessing, not only for yourself but also for all the individuals whose lives you affect.
It is human to be concerned but it is unhealthy to worry too much. Maybe you worry about several things.
It is not necessary to be anxious about every little thing that crosses your path in life. The fact is that many of still worry.
How do you deal with worry?
What can you do so that we do not worry about things so much?
Is there something that you can do to keep from worrying in the first place?
You are going to discuss the process of dealing with worry. Be better equipped to deal with worry so that you are able to do and be all that you want to be in your life.
To wrap up, even if worry starts with you or grows within you, the solutions can also come from you.
It springs from your decision to get away with worries and it initiates with your actions to do something about it.
Take the responsibility to own it and work it out for you to move on and continue on your journey to success.
