How To Overcome Negative Thoughts To Boost Self Esteem?

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Are you looking for ways to boost your self-esteem? Then, how about going back to the way you think? Are your thoughts mostly positive or negative? With that, let’s find out how to overcome those negative thoughts.

Dispel Fears for a More Positive Outlook

Fears and phobias are something which can have an effect on anyone to some extent, while many can conquer their fear and most fears and phobias are unlike more than actual phobias.

For some people, fear and phobia can be severely distressing and have a huge impact on their day-to-day living.

Fear and phobias obviously cause negativity and constant negativity gets you down, while some phobias and fear can be deep-seeded you can break the hold it has over you with time and help.

There are various methods of help, and the more deeply seeded the fear or phobia, the more likely professional help may be advised in the form of a therapy or hypnotherapy. If the fear is only mild then you may overcome it by using self-help methods.

Understanding Fears and Phobias

In order to be able to conquer fears and phobias it is essential that you understand them, fear and phobia simply causes us uncomfortable thoughts and feelings when placed in certain situations.

It can bring feelings such as nausea, vomiting, dizziness, a terrible feeling, a tight band of pressure around the head, pains in the chest, a feeling of breathlessness and trembling.

These are all feelings that you yourselves allow building up and taking over your mind and body. Dispelling fear is a matter of taking back control and putting things into perspective.

This is the basis behind curing any form of fear or phobia although if you suffered for many years it will take longer for you to recover, recovery is possible.

Phobias and fears are basically exaggerated anxiety, and learning methods and ways to relax is a good start to curing fear and phobias.

There are many self-help books, online programs, courses and audio courses that can help you make a start, any self-help material designed for dealing with anxiety and stress will help but there are many specifically aimed at those suffering from fear and phobia.

Benefits of Overcoming the Fear

The benefits of dealing with and overcoming phobia and fear is immense and those who have recovered and overcome their fears and phobias have likened it to being reborn again, the world takes on new meaning when fears are dispelled.

A new positive outlook develops which leads to living a happier and more fulfilled life, you start to feel good about yourself and what you can accomplish in life, you are finally free to do anything and everything that your heart desires.

While there might still occasionally be some anxiety for a time when confronted by your fear or phobia, it will be unlike the intense fear that once had you incapacitated from it.

Once you have realized that the key to overcoming these feelings is inside you, the fear you feel doesn’t have the same hold on you it once did and will eventually give up its hold on you altogether.

Overcome Detachment

Dissociation or disconnection causes us problems with your emotions, physical sensations and how you feel about yourselves as well as the world around you.

It is often associated with depression and anxiety or when a person has gone through a traumatic experience.

People suffering from dissociation offer have feelings of unreality and often fear they are going insane or that they have some incurable illness.

Talking with and being around others becomes almost impossible and deep anxiety that is caused by the feelings can develop into a social phobia.

The feeling of dissociation can vary from person to person depending on the circumstances that brought it about, but common thoughts and feelings associated with disassociation include:

  • The world around feels unreal
  • Not belonging in the world
  • A grey fog covering their vision
  • Like having a veil over your head
  • The world is moving at a faster pace than normal
  • Confusion
  • A terrible feeling of not being able to cope
  • Unsure of yourself
  • Others find happiness but not you
  • Extreme anxiety
  • Feelings that everyone is against you
  • Feelings that everyone is talking about you

These are just some of the feelings caused by disassociation and these feelings eventually cause the sufferer to believe that they have to turn deeper inward to themselves in order to get back into reality.

They continually watch themselves for any brief glimpse that reality as they knew it is returning, of course the more they turn inward and worry the worse the symptoms are.

Cognitive behavioral therapy can help those suffering to overcome feelings of dissociation particularly when the cause is severe trauma.

Those suffering from dissociation due to anxiety and stress may be able to rid themselves of the feelings through self-help methods and the help and understanding of a doctor.

It is important to remember that the world hasn’t actually changed, it is only your perception of the world and those around you that has really changed and these are only temporary thoughts and feelings you are having.

Once you have conquered and overcome what is causing the feelings of dissociation you will see things as you once used to.

For those who suffer from feelings of dissociation due to depression and anxiety they should realize that the feelings are just that, no more than feelings and these feelings will leave in time.

It is important not to be constantly studying them and wondering when they will go, try to accept that they are here for a time and give them no more thought.

Once you have lost some interest in your feelings and are not constantly worrying about them it can be surprising how quickly the world once again becomes the world you once knew.

Accepting your feelings and any thoughts you might have during this period is essential, for it is only when you lose fear of the situation can you recover.


Overcome Doubt

Overcoming doubt is easy, if you don’t doubt it, of course.  However, many entertain an element of doubt in their minds about being successful whenever they try something new.

In fact, almost everyone is in some way plagued with doubt of some kind.  Take science, for example.

Do you think all the scientific advancement achieved would have been possible without questioning the prevailing assumptions at the beginning?

Suppose you want to start a business or launch a novel project. Are you absolutely sure that it will succeed?

There is always a little fear or doubt at the beginning.

Despite your doubt, you cannot let it keep you from your ultimate goal. The reason is simple. You must be prepared to risk failure because it is important for overcoming doubt.

Dive right in to whatever it is without making rash decisions.  Don’t worry, you won’t dive in without the right gear.

You will analyze all of the possible consequences of your situation and you will embrace the outcome, whatever it may be.  This is the secret to conquering doubt.  Have courage to fight it out and you are sure to defeat it.

Belief is the enemy of doubt. Learn to think positively and believe in your ability to be successful. Remember you will succeed if you think you will and you will fail if you think that too.

Your thoughts are self-fulfilling prophecies so you must stop thinking negatively. Likewise, never pay heed to the people who discourage you, who revel in planting doubts in you and who are actually wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Always be in the company of those people whose thoughts and attitudes to life in general are positive.

When Failure Strikes

You probably won’t be fortunate to never experience failure in your life.  However, you must understand that it is part of life.  These are the times when failure fills your mind with doubt and it is hard to muster the confidence you built up earlier in the process.

You can’t let go of your commitment, no matter how shaken you are by failure.  In fact, any setback should only prompt you to double your resolve to make another attempt at reaching your goal.

In order for this to happen, train your mind to build your self-control and self-confidence.  Every step towards self-confidence helps get rid of doubt and you will be back to your successful ways once again.

Healthy Doubt

Remember some amount of doubt can always be helpful in gaining wisdom or achieving advancement in life.

But when it becomes a cause for your depression and inactivity or when it stands like an insurmountable hurdle in your way to reach your destination, draw upon your energy reserves that can toughen up your mind.

You have to strengthen your will to succeed at all costs and weaken doubt by all possible means, so that you will lead a life of fulfillment.

You may succeed because of your doubt or in spite of your doubt. Or, you may have to accept the inevitable and compromise with whatever worst-case scenario that presents itself.

If this happens, just change course, re-energize your cylinders and start afresh on your revised path. Defeat doubt before it defeats you.

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Overcome Feelings of Helplessness

We all come across feelings of helplessness to some degree or another sometime during our life, this is fine as long as we get back on track and overcome these feelings.

However for some, feelings of helplessness set in and begin to affect our way of thinking and life.

Here are some helpful tips to help you understand those feelings of helplessness and how to overcome them.

  • Begin by identifying the problems, fears, issues and obstacles which make you feel helpless and try to discover why they make you feel this way
  • Work on ways that encourage you to take on new beliefs that you can be independent, self-confident and are capable of dealing with anything that crops up in the future
  • Learn ways to deal with these feelings of helplessness when they crop up
  • Practice ways to deal with conflicts and problem solving when they arise
  • If you have relapse and begin to doubt again remember that this is only normal and pick back up from where you left off
  • Whatever the success however small be sure to reward yourself
  • Realize that it will take time to change our feelings of helplessness so always strive towards your goals.
  • Don’t aim for perfection all the time, no one is perfect we all make mistakes
  • Identify what you need to do to grow in the skills of self-coping, self-healing and self-confidence

Feelings of helplessness can cause us many problems in life, the longer you feel helpless, the less control you have over your own life.

Here are some common experiences that occur through helplessness.

  • You begin to feel that no matter what you do or how hard you try you cannot succeed in life
  • You become over dependent on others around you to help you overcome your problems
  • You see yourself as totally incompetent
  • You develop a deep seated fear that you are unable to handle a situation
  • You become miserable, unhappy in life and depression sets in
  • You think of yourself as a victim that always needs rescuing from situations
  • You have a pessimistic outlook on life in general
  • You are afraid others see you as being frail and weak
  • You become despondent because you run out of people who are willing to look after you by solving your problems
  • You resign yourself to the fact that you will always be helpless, that you cannot possibly change

There are many ways you can help yourself overcome these feelings, the important thing to remember is that you are not alone and you can take back control over your life and make important decisions again to successfully solve your problems.

All you need is to have faith in yourself and dig deep and find that faith and bring it to the surface.

While we all have the ability to overcome our problems ourselves, it doesn’t hurt to get advice from friends and relatives as long as you aren’t relying on them totally to solve your problems for you.



Dispel Fears For A More Positive Outlook
Understanding Fears And Phobias
Phobias and fears are basically exaggerated anxiety, and learning methods and ways to relax is a good start to curing fear and phobias.

Benefits Of Overcoming The Fear
– likened to being born again
– new positive outlook
– start to feel good
– free to do anything and everything

Overcome Detachment or Dissociation
Detachment or dissociation is often associated with depression and anxiety or when a person has gone through a traumatic experience.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Remember that the world hasn’t actually changed
Overcome the cause
Accept your feelings and any thoughts

Overcome Doubt
– be prepared to risk failure
– dive in to whatever it is without making rash decisions
– have the courage to fight it out
– belief is the enemy of doubt

When Failure Strikes
– understand failures as part of life
– you can’t let go of your commitment
– train your mind to build your self-control and self-confidence

Healthy Doubt
– strengthen your will to succeed
– accept the inevitable
– compromise with whatever worst-case scenario

Overcome Feelings Of Helplessness
– take back control over your life
– make important decisions again to successfully solve your problems
– have faith in yourself
– dig deep
– find that faith



Do you have any negative thoughts? If so, what are they?

How do you overcome these negative thoughts?

How will you overcome fears?

How will you overcome detachment?

How will you overcome doubt?

How will you overcome feelings of helplessness?